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Happy New Year! 2016 was a year of amazing adventures, new friends, business triumphs, and growth but, like all good things, there were some tough counterparts as well. I have been looking forward to a fresh start this year in 2017.

I have also been thinking a ton about the future of this blog. Back 6 years ago when I started, I was blogging to exercise my writing muscle while being a mom of one. Over time we added two little girls to our family and my writing aspirations have grown as well. After a lot of thinking I have decided to try to blog here on the first week of every month (i.e. February 6th, March 6th, April 3rd, and etc.) I am going to do more lengthy posts about things I love and have discovered over the few weeks in between. I hope you like this new format but as always, your feedback is much appreciated over the next few months.

With all of this I have thought a lot about how much I want to share of my family online. My priorities have shifted and for now, I am going to hold back from showing all of their faces in posts and on social media. It’s just something I feel in my gut at the moment.

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October 19, 2016

I am a Mom

Filed under: Inspiration, Lifestyle, Mama, Notebook

By Desiree Spinner

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I never get political over here (I have never blogged about religion, sex, marriage or politics)…and for a reason…I want to include everyone and make no one feel left out. But what’s the point of having a blog if you can’t speak your mind?! So here it goes, and if your judging me, I get it, it’s hard to relay my tone with the words I am writing here. But please know that I am typing this post with the best of intentions and just want to share my point of view in hopes that there is someone out there who feels the same way. Even if it’s just one mom or dad! So here is my story…

All I have ever wanted to be was a mom. Yes, I spent some of my childhood wanting to be a post lady, teacher, opera singer, and a librarian (o.k. I still want to be a librarian, you got me;). But in all honestly, I have only ever wanted to be a mother. Even more radical, I wanted to be a stay at home mom. I wanted to be at home with my kids all day taking walks, changing diapers, cooking for them, talking to them, and figuring them out.  All of the above was exactly my dream day. Don’t get me wrong I am many other things besides a mom,  like a daughter, wife, sister, reader, writer, and more! I am human after all and there are many things that define me but most of my time is spent being a mother.

As I got older, and went away to college I got the sense that wanting to be a mother was not something you bragged about. And it was something that was even labeled as weird, not realistic or even lazy. I was surrounded at school by amazing people with extraordinary ambition and I admired it. There were a few times I wanted to be a lawyer and even an English professor or a business owner (book shop=dream). Ultimately though, raising children seemed like the best job ever.

I became a mom early, right after I graduated. Although this post is not to be mistaken for all the hard work, tears, and sleepless nights mothers endure, it’s the best job I have ever had. Periodically I tried a few ventures that didn’t work out but I realized that I am great at being a mom! I do my job well-at least my husband says I do!

When people ask me what “I do” I used to say the following…

  1. A writer-yes, o.k. I do that but I am a mom! Hello!
  2. I am a blogger- yes, I do too.
  3. Just a mom-oh my gosh the worst! I am not JUST a mom what the heck?!

Fill in the rest of the story with all the various jobs and ventures I have had in between (wedding planner, student, etc.).

In the last few years I have noticed a trend in the business world that you can’t just be a mom because what about when your kids are grown up? You will have nothing to do? Spoken by someone without kids! Even when your kids are grown they still need mothering, it’s a 24/7 type of job that is mentally and physically exhausting at times. BUT here me out-I am no longer going to be ashamed that I am a stay at home mom who loves, loves, loves it. Some days I want to scream into my pillow-but only some days.

Why am I saying this? Well sometimes I do feel ashamed or judged.  Maybe even the same way some moms feel judged when they have to go back to work after having a baby.

On my worst days I think people might be saying…

  1. Must be nice to stay at home all day.
  2. I have to work and take care of kids.
  3. What do you do all day?
  4. Aren’t you worried you won’t get a job when your kids are all school aged?
  5. But what do you do for a career?

The only thing I can say is this…

It IS really nice being at home. I totally respect how hard it must be to work 9-5 then come home to kids if you do this, you are truly a super hero. Writing is something I am certainly passion about and could turn into a career someday, but for now I am right where I am supposed to be-at home, caring for my little ones, changing diapers, kissing boo boo’s, wiping snots, not sleeping, reading stories and most importantly feeling grateful for every second of it <3

 

*speaking of the library-if you are in Providence, RI check out this one above-it’s stunning in person. Photo’s by Leila Brewster.

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Since becoming a mom I have been a major worrier. Is my baby breathing? Is this ok for them to eat? Should I put them to bed earlier? The list goes on! To be honest, I don’t think you ever stop worrying about your babies even long after they are babies. However, lately (post-preg hormones, I am sure) I have been daydreaming about taking my kids and moving to somewhere remote (Northern England?), having a lifestyle change and doing something different. And, every time there is something bad in the news, it validates my feelings to throw our phones in the river and move to the farm/deserted island/insert your middle of nowhere preference here: ________.

Our little island is very small and, recently, HBO made a documentary about the drug problem here. I know drugs are everywhere, but it makes me sad that the place I grew up has so many people suffering and such easy access to drugs. Beautiful, loving families I know have lost loved ones, and their lives will never be the same. So I have been thinkingis this really a place I want to raise teenagers someday?

When we first moved here, I never thought that I would be staying for long. Our oldest was a baby, and my siblings were only in high school. I don’t regret coming back. I am so glad that Luke got to be around my family and that I never missed out on watching my siblings grow up. Now they are grown and off living their own lives, and I am left wondering if should we be off starting anew as well.

This had my mind spinning until I heard this quote recently“The grass is greener where you water it.”

Of course it is! It’s interesting because I am always saying the grass is greener on the other side, which we know isn’t true. It only seems greener. It keeps me from making hasty decisions in my life. If we go somewhere new, we will still worry about our kids, miss our families, complain about the schools and our jobs. We must cultivate happiness right nowwater the grass right where we are standing. The problems or dislikes we have now will follow us no matter where we travel or move. Trying to make my current situation better before giving up has helped me feel less regret.

So, for now, I am watering the grass right here where we are. Who knows where we will be in the next few years, but I won’t be escaping to a new a place thinking it will solve the world’s bad. I will be going because it feels right, and because I am ready for an adventure.

Photos by Stacey Hedman. Moon jewels and head chain by Trust. Rings by Gypsy Soul Rings. Dress from Tea Princess.