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I have been thinking lately about the “balance” between being a mother and a freelancer. It seems like there is never time to do everything. Recently, (the past year) I made the most conscious effort to put family before anything work related. Here’s what happened, work has lagged a little behindbut honestly not by much. Am I happier? Heck YES! I feel like I have been giving my family 100% and it feels great. No, I haven’t made a ton of money this year. And yes, I could have blogged more, taken on more clients, wrote more guest blog posts, shot more sponsored posts but really I am not sure it would have mattered a ton.

What I do know is that I went on a ton of family trips, spent time with my beautiful children, drank wine on my patio with my husband and read more lovely books than I can count. So I have to say, life is pretty amazing. With that said, I am always striving for a balance, not a perfect one (there really isn’t such a thing) just one that works right now. Isn’t everyone? Here are my new five mantras to fit in some studio time this fall…

1. Set boundaries on business hours: I wrote about boundaries last week on how to be a better freelancer, and I stand by my wacky business hours! I work when the kids are sleeping. Period. If I am working while I am with them, then I am ignoring them and it’s just not the type of parent I want to be.

2. Unplug from your business and plug into your life: Social media has been amazing for me in the blogging and business world. However, if I am trying to edit an Insta what am I missing out on? SO MUCH! Get out there and live! Take tons of pictures, but share them later and not in real time. Stressing over what to say, share or not share is never as fun as living in the moment.

3. Let go of perfectionism: Nothing is perfect, you can only do what you can and what brings you happiness. People aren’t perfect and that is what makes them wonderful. If I don’t blog on a Thursday or show up a little late for pickup, it’s not the end of the world. Everything will be OK.

4. Get focused and establish a routine: My routine so far has been working. However, we have another little on the way and that is definitely going to get all muddled. I am not sure how it will all work out, but Luke will be back at school and Wesleigh will be at nursery school two mornings a week so that gives some wiggle room to establish a new routine. Just because you get organized doesn’t mean that your routine is set in stone. It will change and evolve.

5. Cultivate your tribe and support system: You can’t do everything alone and neither can I! I have an amazing family and group of friends I can count on. I also have some amazing colleagues I can send work to when I am on maternity leave. You better believe I will be calling on them! Your family tribe and your work tribe are those you can count on for support, but also those you return the favor to when they are in need.

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The past few days here on Cape Cod have been a cool and breezy 68 degrees. Quite the change from the 90 degree heat wave (and humidity fest) we have had the past few weeks. I started to get really excited for fallI even bought a fall scented candle on my way home from grocery shopping yesterday!

This morning it was back to hot and humid, which bummed me out until I remembered that it’s only August and I LOVE summer! Yes, the humidity has been brutal, but so was the give feet of snow we had for the entire winter. I am embracing these last few weeks of summer with the mantra below. Would love to know how you are embracing summer as well!

 

“Summer is the most beautiful time of year. The sun is shining, the ocean is calling our names. The fruits we long for all winter long are ripe. Let’s take the next few weeks to be mindful and enjoy all that the summer months have to offer us.”

 

Thank you to Rebecca Hansen from First Mate Photo for shooting this! W is wearing a Joah Love dress from that we got in San Francisco at Fiddlesticks. Shoes are from Mon Petit Shoes.

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When I lived in Italy with my then 19 month old, I spent time observing and learning from the way the Italians lived, ate and played. It was the most influential time in my life as a parent. Something in me changed, and I can attribute it to these five short life lessons.

1. Family Comes First (no matter what): We all put family first, right? I think when it comes down to it, most of us at least want to put our family before anything. But do we cherish our family every day? Are we present with our kids and not trying to juggle 700 things at once? I am not sure we do. But, we most certainly could. Being a present and mindful parent but also person, in whatever we do, can bring happiness that I think the Italians have down pat. One thing that helped me get there is Dr. Shefali’s book Conscious Parenting. It’s a favorite of mine and I know you will love it and find it life changing.

2. Food: While I was living in Italy, I consumed some of the most pure and delicious food. I ate SO much, as in I didn’t hold back from eating, at all, ever. The Italians took such pride in their food, as they should, but what stuck out more to me was how mindful they were about eating. What I mean is that they carefully and mindfully went to buy each ingredient. They went to the market to get fruits and veggies, to the butcher to get the meat, and to another specialty shop for fresh cheese. They weren’t in a rush, the best ingredients mattered to them! They cook all day and slow. I used to whip up a red sauce in 30 minutes, but why?! If you buy fresh plum tomatoes and slow cook it all day, it is SO divine. Love was shown with food. Everyone comes together, it’s scrumptious family time. I learned to appreciate good ingredients and to teach my kids how wonderful that can truly be!

3. Siesta: YES the famous siesta! Take a breather! The whole city just stopped in the middle of the day, shut down, and everyone went home to rest. It sounds unrealistic right? At first I thought this was annoying! I love a spontaneous wine and cheese platter in the afternoon, but nothing was open. So guess what? I got up earlier and enjoyed a cappuccino, then hit the markets. Eventually, even I stopped, slowed down, and napped with Luke in the afternoons. There was NO reason to hustle bustle all day. I could get plenty of work done at night. If your a working mom, this can be hard to do but it is possible. If you live close to work, go home for your lunch break. If you don’t, find a quiet spot nearby and eat your lunch then rest quietly (no phone!) for 30 minutes. Maybe even promise yourself once a week you will leave work early and do something relaxing. I promise, taking a siesta is, and will be for you, life changing.

4. Travel: Europeans are well traveled. They live just a train or short plane ride away from the next amazing European country. Their children are well traveled as well. These are not extravagant vacations, keep in mind. They may be a few daysor even the whole month of August (everyone disappears!), but they travel and their kids travel too. There is nothing like going to a new place to open your eyes and humble you. It even makes me more grateful for home which leads me to…

5. HOME is Where the Heart is: Above all I learned that, because travel is so easily accessible to the Italians, they really appreciated their home, where ever that was. They didn’t complain about being stuffed in a tiny city apartment or living in the middle of nowhere in the countryside. They are humbled by everything they have and are grateful for where they live. Whenever I travel, I begin to appreciate my little town as well. After all, there is no place like home!

Photo by Jocelyn Filley