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Lately, I have been going non-stop shuffling kids around, slinging dinners, and trying to keep my house (sort of) clean that I completely forgot about…myself. Us moms know we need a break, but never actually take the time to make it happen. My husband was away last week and I literally feel like I didn’t have time to breathe, I have been exhausted. On Saturday, all I wanted to do was sleep in but instead I pealed myself out of bed and I had some “me” time.  I went to a Barre class and then picked up coffee and a magazine. After I got home I relaxed in my living room chair and read before even telling anyone I was home. I briefly thought about how nice this moment was and how I can do it more often. Finding time for me isn’t easy but I thought my action list might help you work some alone time into your schedule as well.

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  1. Ask for help: I never, ever ask my husband if I can take off for the morning because I assume he will say he would be overwhelmed with all three kids at once. So silly! I mentioned getting up early to work out and he didn’t even bat an eye lash. Sometimes all you have to do is ask, and all you need is an hour or two of alone time to feel new again.
  2. Think ahead: Schedule in some “me” time via your ical or calendar and then stick to it. Even if you don’t know what you will do during your alone time, schedule it anyways! Giving your partner a heads up you need a few hours to recharge will help them prep for kid chaos (oh is that just at my house?).
  3. Brain storm your perfect day: If you had a few hours alone without kids, what would you do? Go work out ? Or take a bath, go shopping, grab breakfast at a cafe? Whatever it is, brain storming what that day would be like is motivation to make it happen.
  4. Make a trade: Ask a good friend if they want to do a trade! You will watch their kids for two hours while she takes some time for herself and then in return she watches your kids on another day so you can do the same. When my kids have other children to play with, then they completely entertain themselves and I can get things done around the house. It can be a win/win!
  5. Make the commitment: Instead of feeling bad that you never get to do things that you enjoy, make the commitment make time for yourself and stick to it. Don’t back out. Beyond scheduling “me” time, make the commitment to your well-being to 2-3 hours (even once a month) to dedicate to you, and only you. Do something that you really love!

I hope these tips inspire you to do the things that you love, for yourself, and on your own time. It’s so important that we all foster our hobbies, loves, and give ourselves some self-care. I would love to know how you all spend your time when you aren’t with the kids. Let me know on Instagram or Facebook!

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You guys, these are my old and new favorites for summer reading! I know you are going to be as obsessed with them as I am…and I even added one that is coming out soon that I can’t wait to dive into while sipping ice coffee on the beach. BUT I would LOVE to know what you are reading, so please comment below or let me know over on Facebook or Instagram! You can shop these favorites by clicking on the images or links below. Enjoy!

1. I Feel Bad About My Neck 2. Tap the Magic Tree 3. Not that Kind of Girl 4. Bluebird 5. Me Talk Pretty One Day 6. The Garden of Eden 7. Gift from the Sea 8. Villa America 9. Summertime in the Big Woods 10. Is It Evil Not To Be Sure?

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Today (as I am writing this) it is a rainy, cloudy, and humid day. It’s also a Monday which makes me default to a bad mood. I was thinking lately about why we slip into a funk and how we can shake it…

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sometimes we have something in our lives that makes us feel plain crappy.  And to be honest, that’s o.k! We aren’t all perfect and sometimes being cranky can serve us in a weird way. It can be an indicator maybe we need to change things up, or do something different. If you are ready to kick your bad day though, here is my best advice.

Things you will need:

  • Journal and a good pen
  • Candle
  • A cup of coffee/tea/or a delicious smoothie
  • 30 Minutes of alone time
  • A quiet sitting area and a cozy blanket

First you are going to block 30 minutes of quiet alone time. You may need to send the kids with a babysitter or ask your partner to head outside for a bit. For me, it’s easiest to wait until nap time or get up 30 minutes earlier than everyone in the house. Next, brew some of your favorite coffee or tea, and even make your favorite smoothie. Whatever drink of choice that brings you joy, comfort and clarity. Search for the most comfortable spot in your house (this changes daily for me sometimes it’s sitting in bed but other times grabbing a chair in the sitting room off my kitchen). Don’t forget to grab a notebook with a really great pen, and a blanket.

Here is what you do:

  • Take a sip of your beverage of choice, plant your feet on the ground and take a deep breath
  • Open your journal and write down everything that is really bugging you. Just let it rip! Anything from family to work related problems. Write it ALL down!
  • Take a look at what you wrote. Does anything really stand out to you? Does anything look fixable today? Later today? Or even tonight? Are they all small little things that are bothering you? Or are they HUGE, and if they are, is there a common denominator here?
  • Turn the page of your journal and write down everything you are grateful for right now in this very moment. This can be simple like the “sun is shining today” to more in depth like good health or my kids are happy. Write down everything big and small.
  • THEN rip the page out of the journal with all the things that are bugging you. Take one last look then crumple it, burn it or tear it into pieces.

Did you just panic?

The healing part already happened! You got it out, onto the paper and out of your head and this is the best way to kick it out for good. There is something really cathartic about writing it all down but after that-it doesn’t serve a purpose anymore.

What really matters is gratitude. What matters is all the little (and big things) you wrote down that you are grateful for. Those things make you lucky! It’s easy to be weighed down with all the curve balls life throws at you. I don’t think you should ignore them-you should get them out, get mad, even cry about it. But then, let’s try to figure out how we can move forward. Maybe they are little things that can be fixed with therapy, exercise, a massage or even some alone time. Even if they are beyond your control , there are ways to deal with them that is more productive than being cranky and miserable!

What can you do to get proactive about your bad moods, funks, grumpiness? Did you try this exercise above? I would LOVE to hear-comment below or send me an email to tell me more!

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