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Today (as I am writing this) it is a rainy, cloudy, and humid day. It’s also a Monday which makes me default to a bad mood. I was thinking lately about why we slip into a funk and how we can shake it…

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sometimes we have something in our lives that makes us feel plain crappy.  And to be honest, that’s o.k! We aren’t all perfect and sometimes being cranky can serve us in a weird way. It can be an indicator maybe we need to change things up, or do something different. If you are ready to kick your bad day though, here is my best advice.

Things you will need:

  • Journal and a good pen
  • Candle
  • A cup of coffee/tea/or a delicious smoothie
  • 30 Minutes of alone time
  • A quiet sitting area and a cozy blanket

First you are going to block 30 minutes of quiet alone time. You may need to send the kids with a babysitter or ask your partner to head outside for a bit. For me, it’s easiest to wait until nap time or get up 30 minutes earlier than everyone in the house. Next, brew some of your favorite coffee or tea, and even make your favorite smoothie. Whatever drink of choice that brings you joy, comfort and clarity. Search for the most comfortable spot in your house (this changes daily for me sometimes it’s sitting in bed but other times grabbing a chair in the sitting room off my kitchen). Don’t forget to grab a notebook with a really great pen, and a blanket.

Here is what you do:

  • Take a sip of your beverage of choice, plant your feet on the ground and take a deep breath
  • Open your journal and write down everything that is really bugging you. Just let it rip! Anything from family to work related problems. Write it ALL down!
  • Take a look at what you wrote. Does anything really stand out to you? Does anything look fixable today? Later today? Or even tonight? Are they all small little things that are bothering you? Or are they HUGE, and if they are, is there a common denominator here?
  • Turn the page of your journal and write down everything you are grateful for right now in this very moment. This can be simple like the “sun is shining today” to more in depth like good health or my kids are happy. Write down everything big and small.
  • THEN rip the page out of the journal with all the things that are bugging you. Take one last look then crumple it, burn it or tear it into pieces.

Did you just panic?

The healing part already happened! You got it out, onto the paper and out of your head and this is the best way to kick it out for good. There is something really cathartic about writing it all down but after that-it doesn’t serve a purpose anymore.

What really matters is gratitude. What matters is all the little (and big things) you wrote down that you are grateful for. Those things make you lucky! It’s easy to be weighed down with all the curve balls life throws at you. I don’t think you should ignore them-you should get them out, get mad, even cry about it. But then, let’s try to figure out how we can move forward. Maybe they are little things that can be fixed with therapy, exercise, a massage or even some alone time. Even if they are beyond your control , there are ways to deal with them that is more productive than being cranky and miserable!

What can you do to get proactive about your bad moods, funks, grumpiness? Did you try this exercise above? I would LOVE to hear-comment below or send me an email to tell me more!

Photography by First Mate Photo

 

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I wish I could say it was sunny and warm here in New England, but so far this May is still pretty chilly. I’ve officially started to get out more with the girls while Luke is at school even if it’s windy and bitter. As long as the sun is shining through the clouds every now and then, we can get through a short walk to the beach and back without freezing our buns off. The spring is such a short season here but the flowers are starting to bloom (just a little) and I am getting excited for another summer on Cape Cod. Above is a running list of things I am just loving right now. I think you will like them too! I hope you have a fabulous week and just in case you missed April’s top 10, check it out here.

Soor Ploom Lark Dress, Gift from the Sea, Raw Coconut Cream, Josefina Bag, Custom Silhouette, Blossom bib, Sophie la Girafe, White Shorts, Corey Suede Epadrilles, Baby Carrier

Currently in FASHION

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10 Things I am Loving this April

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Here are my best tips for keeping your Instagram game strong and cultivating a community.

1. Consistency: I post on Instagram 1-2 times a day. But more importantly I share at night or first thing in the morning.  The reason I do this is because I am more consistently than not, speaking to mothers, and when do mothers have time to be online? First thing in the morning and then after the kiddos go to sleep at night. I actually discovered this information through a site called Iconosquare. When you sign up it calculates your Instagram analytics (you can do a free trial) so that you know when your audience is the most engaged and what content they are engaged in. This really helps with consistency so that your followers are seeing your posts when they are online.

*Consistency also means keeping the look across the board the same as well. Maybe you love only black and whites or maybe you do more blue tones and then every 3rd picture has pink tones. It doesn’t matter what it is, as long as it is consistent so your followers know what to expect.

I really like what these Instagrammers are doing…

The Dean Hotel

Design Love Fest

Being Boss Club

ZHours

Sophie Vine

Minikin

Stella Maria Baer

Amy Stone

Jo Rogers

2. Quality: Taking pictures with your camera isn’t completely necessary, I do think some Iphone pictures come out just as nice. More than 50%  of my Instagram photos are from my phone. If you are going to take them with your phone make sure you are editing them before you post. I use VSCO, Prime, Color Story and Photoshop to edit my photos before posting them. If anything at all, use the “clarity” function on any of these apps to avoid fuzzy/blurry photos. Which leads me to…

3. Color and Clarity: Your photos should always be really clear. It can be really hard for people to connect to an image they can’t see very well. There is such a thing as “over editing” them where they don’t even look real anymore. If you are going to use a filter make sure you are not compromising the image. You can “up” the clarity on any of the apps above but I also suggest you use the “brightening” function. Studies have shown that people “like” a photo with cooler or blue tones.

4. Remember your Top 9: You should always be sharing your best photos! However, look at your top 9 images, that is what people will see when they come to your Instagram. Do those 9 photos reflect you, your style and what you want to say/put out into the world? If they do then amazing! If not, brain storm what your core message is and how you can use images to convey that message.

5. Community: Cultivate your community and keep them engaged. Ask your followers questions or advice and offer them advice as well.  Most importantly ALWAYS respond to their questions, comments or concerns. Not following up is like never responding to a text message, it would be super rude and leaves the person feeling pretty bad.

Bonus: Yes, I think you should plan out your Instagrams. I don’t think you need to plan weeks or even days in advance but I think you should have an idea of what you want to share at least 24 hours ahead. A great tool that I use is Planoly. It allows me to schedule my Instagrams but also see how my feed looks with the scheduled post.

*bonus #2 A few times a year I hire or do a trade with a photographer friend to help me capture images that I know are beyond my learning level. Like above! This photo is by First Mate Photo! Make sure to always credit the photographer though if you are posting to social media, photographers like that:)

*bonus #3 There is a ton of fuss over whether or not to use hashtags. I DO use applicable hashtags and I do think they help!